The Pathway to Your True Self
Wayne Dyer once said, “Change the way you see the world and the world you see changes.” Once we begin to see the world as a beautiful teacher it changes how we view every person, every relationship, and every interaction we encounter. We begin to realize that everywhere around us are amazing teachers and we also begin to see who are meant to be our students. As I began to awaken to these truths and reflect on my life as a grand school for my soul, my healing began and my passion and life purpose flourished.
As Marianne Williamson said, “When we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” What I also know, since I’ve witnessed it play out over and over again in my practice as a therapist, is that what we see reflected back to us from the world, or in our relationships, both good and bad, is at the core the very way we are choosing to see ourselves. In other words, if I fear judgement from you that means I am still judging myself. When I stop negatively judging myself and choose self-love instead, I stop worrying about whether you are judging me or not. Your judging then becomes whatever it is that you’re still working through within you and I can just love you as you work that out. Just as a child is given grace when it falls while learning to walk, so are we meant to give ourselves and others grace for learning. I think that’s what Jesus meant by “He who is without sin cast the first stone.” (And by the way, my definition of sin is not the traditional definition which implies shame. Instead sin to me is when we choose to move away from love. Nothing about an all loving being has the capacity to project shame, that’s our childlike fear talking, not condemnation from an all loving being. It doesn’t even make logical sense.)
I know the idea of true compassion, empathy, and complete forgiveness is a very challenging consideration especially when you get exposure through our media, or right within your own life, to the horrendous crimes against humanity, yet non-the-less this is still what is being asked from all of us. What we do to the other we do to ourselves. So, it’s essential that we work toward forgiveness.
I consider it a privileged to support others as they awaken to their soul’s journey as it reconnects to the true self, and as it returns to love.